Wednesday, May 30, 2007

reunited and it feels so good

(Molly, Me, and Maggie)

My life is now a little more complete:  Molly is here.  My world makes a little more sense when she’s in it.  I sleep better at night, or should I say, I have more fun at night when she’s here.  Nothing’s better than a night out with Molly, then the next day, recalling and piecing together the night through pictures and broken, hazy stories.  Aw, the memories.

I met Molly three years ago.  You can read more about that here.  We spend the majority of our friendship talking on the phone, updating each other on our lives and whereabouts.  Then, come May, she comes back to me, where we spend the next four months joined at the hip.

I could spend hours telling stories and conversations the two of us have shared, but most only make sense to us.  So, I will neither bore you nor confuse you with them.   Oh, why not?  I will leave you with this conversation we had Sunday night/early Monday morning.  It sums up our friendship quite nicely.

Brooke:  “Do you remember…?”

Molly:  “YES!”

Brooke:  “And the….?”

Molly:  “And that guy, with the…”

Brooke:  “And then you…”

Molly:  “YES!  OH MY GOSH, that night was SOOO crazy and SOOO fun.”

Brooke:  “Ahh…………………”

Molly:  “Ahh…………………”

Molly:  “I think we need another drink.”

Brooke:  “I think you might be right.”

  

 

 

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Friday, May 25, 2007

sometimes smiling hurts my face

Mom:  Long sigh, accompanied with rolled eyes, “What’s wrong?”

Brooke:  “…………………..”

Mom:  “Why are you crying?”

Brooke:  (Insert horrible sobbing, along with snot and tears) “I don’t know.”

Mom:  “What do you mean you don’t know?  Is there something wrong?  Did you have a bad day at school?  Are you hurt?”

Brooke:  Still sobbing, “No…I don’t know.”

Mom:  “Brooke!”

Brooke:  “What?  I don’t know.”

Mom:  “Well, if nothings wrong then dry it up and put a smile on your face.”

Brooke:  “It hurts my face to smile.”

Mom:  Another long sigh, but with hands thrown in the air, “Fine.  Then cry.  I give up.”

Throughout my three years in junior high, this was the daily conversation my mother and I shared when she would get home from work.  I would be thrown across my bed, face down, crying into a pillow.  To talk, I would only slightly turn my head, never making eye contact with her.  She was concerned and she did care, but she was tired.  She was tired with it all, “It” being me. 

I hated junior high.  I hated going.  I hated being there.  I hated myself while I was there.  It wasn’t that I was an outcast, and I wasn’t that girl that everyone made fun of.  I had friends, but I wasn’t popular, that wasn’t the problem.  I didn’t mind that I wasn’t popular.  I felt that I was popular enough.  I had the cool clothes, the cool shoes, good grades, good hair, good complexion, and good friends.  But still, I was miserable and I would come home and cry everyday.  I guess puberty had a lot to do with it.  My hormones were severely off balance.  I believe I had a chronic stomach ache for three years.  I would refuse to go to school the week I was on my period, complaining that I was in too much pain, and my teachers wouldn’t allow me to go to the bathroom during class and I didn’t have time to go between classes.  I would beg my mother every morning to let me stay home.  This ploy only worked about once every two or three months.  On the days she made me go, I would call, usually after lunch and plead with her to come and get me.  This tactic rarely worked either, and when it did, I was not taken home, but taken to her office where I would bounce between examining rooms until the end of the day, when she was finished seeing patients.  How I rationalized this was better than being at school is still a mystery to me.

School overall, sucked.  However, what got me through each day, beginning in eighth grade, was my pre-algebra teacher, Mrs. Zutaut.  Without her, I’m not sure I would have made it through junior high.  She fascinated me and I looked up to her for that reason alone.  She took time to listen and offer advice.  She allowed me to hang out in her room when I didn’t want to go to class.  She was my safe haven, someone I could talk to, someone I could go to, someone who took an interest.  She was my teacher, a teacher who at the time cared.  While shuffling through boxes of my books today, I stumbled upon a book she gave me, along with a poem and a letter.  The poem said:

“No one can determine who I am, but myself.  My parents can not.  My teachers can not.  My friends can not.  They can guide me, but in the final analysis the problem is completely mine.  For I have abilities that are completely unique to me and the challenges of life is for me to discover them, to develop them, to use them.  For then and only then will I know who I am.”

Tears streamed down my face as I read these words.  Still, after all these years I realize I still look to my parents, teachers, friends, and now even boy friends, and jobs to determine who I am.  Even years of maturing and growing, I have not learned to trust in myself.  I’m not sure if that’s a skill I will grasp.  I rely so heavily on what other people think that I’ve lost sight of who I am.  I realize I do this, but still, I continue to do it…Why?

Looking back now, I ask myself, was I a depressed teenager?  Sure.  Was I just going through a phase?  Yeah.  Did I eventually out-grow it?  Sort of.  My mother would say I’ve gotten better, but I still have my moments.  And I would have to agree with her.  I still go through days where I prefer to be alone and be down and depressed.  I feel you can’t be happy everyday, though my mother doesn’t agree.  She says, “Being happy is sometimes a choice, and sometimes you have to choose to be happy.”  I believe that’s true to a degree.  But then I feel that sometimes it’s ok to be sad and unhappy, and not know why.  I still hate it when she say’s, “Put a smile on your face, let me see the pretty girl hiding under that frown.”  And I always respond with, “It hurts my face to smile.”   

 

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Wednesday, May 23, 2007

wanting a change, but not the work

I am so sick of this layout…it makes me want to slit my wrists.  Ok, so maybe I don’t hate it that much, but I do hate it.  This site doesn’t have a lot to offer when it comes to layout designs and it’s starting to aggravate me to no end.  I’ve considered relocating, but where would I go?  I’m not sure if I’m ready for a move.  Actually, I’m ready to move, I’m just not ready for the work involved with moving.  I’m lazy, and I don’t feel like transferring all the posts over to a new site.  If only I was Samantha Stephens and I could twitch my nose, and magically everything would be the way I want it.  Yeah, that would be great.  However, I’m not Samantha Stephens and I can’t bewitch my blog into perfection.  What to do…what to do?

 

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Tuesday, May 22, 2007

making friends and making memories

This past weekend I had the privilege of meeting six, new, fun, and amazing girls.  One in particular, Meg, I have been trying to meet up with for the past couple of months.  But finally, last Saturday, it happened.  We decided to meet for dinner and drinks, and then see where the night would lead us. Which was to a few bars, which I cannot remember the names of, meeting a few guys, which I cannot remember the names of, and to yet another bar to see a band, which I cannot remember the name of.  However, that should not be a surprise to anyone.  My remembering skills are not what they used to be.  I blame Dr. Baker, my Personality Disorders professor for making me memorize fourteen chapters of every disorder in the DSM IV.  Now, my brain has trouble storing new information.  Though I am very good at pointing out the many disorders my family, friends, and complete strangers have, I now have trouble remembering simple names and events.  And I now firmly believe that everyone, everyone has some type of disorder. 

Anyway…back to Saturday.  After meeting, smiles, hugs, and new introductions, everyone was acquainted, and the chit-chatting began.  Dinner was so entertaining and enjoyable.  Along with the conversation, the food was scrumptious.  The Jerk Chicken was good and the Bahama Mama’s were down right delicious, along with one of Katie’s drinks, which she swapped for one of mine.  Our waiter, which of course, his name escapes me, was a skinny hippy, nice and cute, but not nice and cute enough.  His hair, which was in dreads, was a huge turn off, along with his anorexic looking body.  I need a guy with some meat on him.  And obviously, appearance is high on my list, but then again, he was a nice waiter, and he was good at his job.  At least he had that going for him.

After dinner and several drinks, we decided to hit up a few bars and join in the festivities of what is known as, “Bike Week.”  It consisted of thousands of leathered, tanned, tattooed, hairy men, accompanied by their leathered, bleach blond, overly tanned, half-naked women.  Dress wise; we were a little out of place, considering not a one of us was wearing leather. But leave it to my dear, sweet, lovable, drunk, crazy friend, Kate to never miss an opportunity to live in the moment…a drunk moment, which she later hung her head in shame, and laughed hysterically about the next morning, when she recalled the night and her new belongings.  In her drunken, biker inducing high, she bought a pair of ass-less chaps.  She went as far as to have them fitted and measured just for her.  She strutted in her new chaps the rest of the night, feeling cool and hot, which she was.  And that’s why we are friends and I love her.

I was surprised however, by the keep of the restrooms inside these bar establishments.  Never, have I ever, been in a bar bathroom where there was a woman, in this case old, sitting there offering soap, paper towels, tampons, and body spray.  She was equipped with all the necessities a girl might need in a public restroom.  However, this one in particular restroom bar maid, was not on her “A Game.”  It never failed, each time Diana and I made a trip to the restroom; I ended up sharing my paper towel with her.  This occurred at least three times.  This lack of paper towelessness really hurt her in tips, which I refused to leave.  I mean, she had an entire stack of paper towels lying before her.  All she had to do was pass them out.  Not a difficult task.

The rest of the evening is somewhat of a blur.  Not that this part of the evening was not memorable, it’s just that I don’t remember it enough in detail to write about it.  I remember walking forever to another bar, to see a band, which we only made it for the end of the last song.  I remember ordering a vodka straight, and then half way through it thinking, why oh why did I do that.  I also remember several of the girls swapping shoes.  The night held way too much walking for such cute shoes.  I remember talking with Meg, and having so much fun finally getting to hang out with her.  And, I also remember at last calling it a night and then making our way back to the car, which was parked on the complete opposite side of where we were.  Thank God, Kristin and Kate have great navigational skills, or we might have been lost for hours.  Not only did they manage to find the car, but they also managed to get us to the hotel, and they got us there in a timely manner.  I was thoroughly impressed.  And luckily, for Kate and I, our new friends let us spend the night and let us borrow clothes to sleep in.  Like I said, these girls were amazing.

It’s strange: how comfortable the night was.  It was like I had known this group of girls my whole life.  It was also amusing to see their interactions with each other.  To hear them tale stories and little inside references was a joy to watch.  To see how close the six of them are was remarkable.  But even with their inner circle stories, I never once felt like an outsider.  Each one welcomed me with open arms and a new friendship.    And I know it’s cheesy and girly, but I hope our new friendship continues to grow and we are able to see more of each other.  Yeah, they were that great!

 

 

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Sunday, May 13, 2007

“many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.”

I remember dreary days, playing in the rain until our bodies were soaking wet.  I remember dancing with you in the kitchen, while you made dinner.  You would twirl me around with a dish rag.  I remember summers by the pool, you sitting on the side, while Tara and I hung on to your legs.  You would make us grilled cheese picnics on the deck.  I remember sleeping with you when Dad was gone.  You would be in the middle, with Tara on one side and me on the other.  You hated the middle, but you wanted us to be happy and we were happy when you were in the middle.  I remember watching the old episodes of Batman in bed with you at night.  At the end of every episode in unison, the three of us we chant:  “Tune in next time.  Same bat time, same bat channel.”  I remember you taking us to work with you, and Tara and I would always go and dance with the skeleton in your office.  You would let us type stories on your typewriter. We would make hot chocolate with the coffee maker and pretend we were drinking coffee.  I remember going on long trips, in the middle of the week, just for fun.  I remember the beach and being attacked my seagulls, and you saving me.  I remember kindergarten graduation and you being the only one there to see me.  You took hundreds of pictures and screamed out my name, making me feel like the most important person in the world.  I remember you taking us to the movies, and it was so cold in the theater that you left and bought us humongous sweatshirts.  Tara and I curled our arms, legs, and feet up inside and watched the movie nestled inside.  I remember you singing to me.  I would beg you to sing, “I Can’t Take My Eye’s Off of You” and “Going out of My Head.”  I would make you sing it over and over and over.  I remember picnics in your car during school.  I remember you picking us up early from school and taking us to eat, to the movies, or out of town.  You would plan long weekends in the winter to take us to a hotel that had an indoor pool, because you knew we loved to swim.  I remember camp outs in the living room and making tents out of blankets and pillows.  I remember always sitting at the table for dinner; you wanted us to eat as a family.  I remember you making us eat a spoonful of peas and green beans.  I remember convincing Dad to eat mine once you left the table.  I remember making donuts with you at Mom maw’s, and cutting the donut holes with plastic bottle tops.  I remember Sunday church dresses and not wanting to wear the ruffled tights, but never winning.  I remember Christmas mornings and being too excited to sleep.  The detailed, individual, thoughtful presents, and the scavenger hunts.  You always made Christmas the best.

I remember junior high school.  I remember you trying to help with my homework, and we both would get so frustrated with the other, that we usually both ended up in tears.  I remember distancing myself from you, pulling away.  I remember being difficult and defiant.  I remember wanting to be independent, but wanting you right by my side, holding my hand.  I remember hurting you.  I remember you coming to every volleyball game, soccer game, dance recital, swim practice, track meet, and softball game.  You were always there, always supporting and cheering me on.  You would do anything to make me happy.  I remember not always saying, “I’m sorry” when I should have.  I remember not always saying, “Thank you” when I should have.  I remember being jealous of the time you spent helping the youth group at church.  I didn’t like that they saw you as a segregate mother.  You were my mother, not theirs.  I remember not understanding your need to constantly help and do for others.  I wanted you all for myself. 

I remember high school.  I remember trying desperately to make you proud of me, whether with grades, sports, writing, or clothes.  I wanted your approval for everything.  I remember how you would brag to your friends about how well I played in a soccer game or danced in a recital, or how great I did on my grade card.  I loved when you were proud of me and you wanted everyone to know.  I remember disappointing you, and you being ashamed of me.  I remember how much that hurt.  I remember thinking that I had to win your love back.  I remember wanting to stay at home with you, instead of going out with friends.  I loved spending time with you.  I remember thinking I was an adult and I was able to make my own decisions, and I remember how quickly you pointed out how wrong I was. 

I remember college.  I remember how much I hated my freshman year.  I remember how I begged to come home and you said, no.  You told me I could do and handle anything for a year.  I remember calling you and crying, pleading with you to come ad get me, but you didn’t.  Eventually, I accepted it and moved on. I remember Tara and I moving into our first apartment, and you crying the entire time.  We made fun of you for it.  I remember not wanting to come home as often, but feeling guilty because you wanted me home.  I remember college being fun after Tara was there with me.  Then, you were so happy, almost giddy when you moved us out of our last house and back home with you.  We were devastated and you were thrilled to death.  You were so proud to see the two of us graduate.  You bragged and bragged to everyone.  And I loved every minute. 

Mom, I remember some of the bad things, but mostly, I remember the good.  Only because that’s what you are: everything good.  Your happiness lies in making us happy.  You want nothing but the best for us, and do anything to see that we are.  You sacrifice your happiness to give us what you didn’t have.  You mean everything to me.  You’re the reason I’m who I am and who I will become.  You’re the reason I’m able to love.  You’re the reason I aim for the best, always wanting to do and be better.  You’re the reason I get up in the morning.  You are the good in my life, the reason why I’m here.  I couldn’t have chosen a better mom.  You’re my sun in the morning and my moon at night.  You are my mother.

 

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Friday, May 11, 2007

over-exfoliating

 

 

This was in an email from a friend.  Obviously, my friends find it funny and at times hilarious that I have a problem…ok, more like a disorder when it comes to exfoliating.  I don’t blame them.  It is funny, and I would make fun of them if they had a disorder.  Wait, I do make fun of them, so I guess karma is a bitch.  I’ll admit, I have a little OCD about the cleanliness of my face.  I won’t deny that.  I like for my face to be clean.  I’m talking: I wash my face at least three times a day, and it has to be with Neutrogena Anti-Blemish, Anti-Wrinkle face wash, I don’t allow anything to touch my face…not make-up, not my hands, not loose hair, NOTHING.  The only things that go on my face are my face wash and moisturizer with SPF 20.  The SPF 20 is very important, all year round.  Sunscreen is not just for summer.  No, no, no, it’s for all seasons.  Always remember that; maybe even take a mental note.

Also, it doesn’t help that my face wash is also an exfoliator.  I know it’s not good for my skin, but I can’t stop.  In my head, the beads are the only things that are able to really get deep into my pores and remove all the gross, disgusting dirt that builds up throughout the day.  Unfortunately, the rest of my body has fallen victim to this obsession as well.  I use exfoliating gloves everywhere else on my body, along with a sugar scrub.  Basically, I have ripped away the top ten layers of my skin.  Like I said, I have a problem.  I KNOW! 

If you have any suggestions of something I might try, instead of damaging my skin any further, please let me know.  I don’t want to look like these kids in the picture.  Though, I’ve already started practicing my speech:  “Hi, my name is Brooke, and I’m an over-exfoliator.”

 

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Monday, May 7, 2007

questions for you

Where do I stand, when it comes to you?  Where do I fall into your life?  Is there room for me there?  What have we been doing?  What have we done?  What will we do?  Will we have regrets?  Is what we’re doing wrong?  Do you think about me when we’re apart?  Do you worry we moved too fast or not fast enough?  Do you want more?  Do you want less?  What do you want me to do?  Are we wasting our time, just having fun?  Is there something more there?  Why does your body fit perfectly with mine?  Why are your eyes all I see?  Have we compromised our future because of our unwillingness to wait?  Why can we talk for hours about nothing?  Why does every conversation turn dirty?  Do you miss my smile?  Do you think I love you?  Do you love me?  Why do I feel safe in your arms?  Why are you not always there?  Why do I care so much?  What is it about you that makes my heart race?  Why do you taste so sweet in my mouth?  Why is your touch so soft?  How do you know just what I want?  How do you know just when to take me?  What changed your mind?  What lead you there?  Do we care what everyone thinks?  Do you think about that night?  Will this last?  Why are you leaving?  Will we ever have to say goodbye?  Should I believe you?  Have you made up your mind?  How do I always know when you’ve walk into the room?  Why do we play these games?  How do I tell you, how good it feels to be with you?  How do I show you?  How do I know?  Why do I hang on, when I should let go?  Why do you still call?  Why do I still answer?  What have we done wrong?  Do you have all the answers?  Do you have time for me?  Do you ever get tired of running?  Why are we still here?  Are we just pretending?  Will you ever let me fall for you?  Will you ever fall for me?  Where do we go from here?  Why don’t we kiss the way we used to?  Why didn’t you follow me home tonight?  Have you ever lied to me?  Am I just another lover?  Would you follow me if I went away?  Do you know you make me smile?  Can you see into my eyes?  Are you afraid?  Are you lonely when I’m not with you?  Do you ache for me?  How much longer can we wait?  What if I need you tonight?

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Wednesday, May 2, 2007

the artist

Two weeks ago my younger sister, Tara had her senior art show at the Birke Art Gallery.  It was amazing.  She was amazing.  So, to show her off a little I’ve included a few pictures of her pieces.  She had an environmental theme going on. Everything had to do with pollution, recycling, and nature.  I tell ya, she’s going to be famous! If you would like to check out her work, she has a show tonight at The Studio, in Huntington, 7:00pm.

View the rest…

 

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